Stuck in Life? Ask Yourself These 4 Questions to Get Unstuck (In 20 Minutes or Less)

Three years ago, I found myself sitting in a café, scrolling through emails I didn’t care about, for a job I didn’t love anymore, while fantasizing about a life I didn’t dare to build.

The scary part? On paper, things looked fine. But “fine” is sometimes just a polite word for unfulfilled.

That day, I didn’t make a drastic change. I just took out my notebook and asked myself a few questions. Twenty minutes later, I had more clarity than I’d had in three years.

Today, I’m sharing those 4 questions with you—because if you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or directionless, this could be your moment to reset.

What does “Being Stuck” feel like?

Let’s be honest: getting stuck doesn’t always look dramatic. It looks like:

• Going through the motions.

• Wondering if this is all there is.

• Checking off goals that don’t feel like yours anymore.

• Feeling guilty for wanting more

As psychologist Carl Jung once said:

The 20-Minute Reset

This isn’t a full-blown life overhaul. It’s a 20-minute self-audit.

Grab a pen and paper, find a quiet space, and answer these 4 questions:

1. What would my life look like over the next 5 years if I follow the same path I’m on now?

👉 This question is a gut-check.

Project your current habits, work, relationships, and routines 5 years into the future. Ask yourself:

• Is this where I want to be in 5 years?

• Would I be proud of where I end up?

• What does my health, career, and sense of purpose look like?

Example:

A friend of mine realized that if he stayed in his high-paying but soul-crushing job, he’d probably have a nicer apartment—but zero energy or meaning in his day-to-day. That was enough to spark a career pivot.

2. What would my life look like if I couldn’t do what I’m doing now—and had to choose something else?

👉 This removes the “default” and opens space for creative thinking. What would you do if your current path disappeared overnight?

Example:

A aspiring manager in fashion imagined a world where her industry no longer existed. That led her to rediscover an old passion for education—and within months, she was building a workshop series on the side.

3. What would my life look like over the next 5 years if money wasn’t an issue and I could do whatever I wanted?

👉 Money is real—but so is the fear we wrap around it. This question helps bypass that fear and ask:

What would I pursue if I knew I couldn’t fail?

No limits. No bills. No judgment.

Example:

One woman answered this question and realized she’d spend her days creating art and teaching mindfulness. A year later, she had built a side business doing exactly that—with income growing each month.

4. Which goal will have the greatest impact on your life? What is the bottleneck?

👉 Now we get practical.

Which goal, if achieved, would create a ripple effect across everything else?

And what’s the bottleneck? Time? Fear? A skill gap? Self-doubt?

Pro tip: Once you name the bottleneck, it stops being a wall and becomes actionable.

Try it out today

This is your invitation to pause. Not for a week. Just 20 minutes.

📍 Find a quiet spot.

🕒 Set a timer.

✍️ Write out your answers—don’t just think them.

💡 Don’t aim for perfect. Aim for honest.

Ready to reset?

Take 20 minutes. Answer 4 questions. Change your life.

And hey—when you’re done, I’d love to hear what came up for you.

📩 Hit reply and tell me your biggest “aha” moment.

You never know—one answer might unlock the future you’ve been secretly craving.